The best places to meet potential soul mates . . .  Jo interviews Rick

Jo:   Rick why do singles say they find it hard to meet other singles? There are so many online dating sites, events for singles and it seems to me, more options than ever before for meeting singles.

Rick: Jo, there are plenty of places to meet other singles.  What’s missing is meeting potential partners who match your requirements. Singles need to know their requirements and then find venues that are most likely to have patrons who are potentially aligned with their requirements.

Most singles have a vague idea of what they want. Some have a short list…

Jo: Like the girl on Farmer Wants a Wife… he’s male, he’s available and he has a pulse… he’ll do!

Rick:… hahaha yes or perhaps they have a list pages long. Neither one of these is helpful. Singles have to be very clear about what their deal-breakers are, what they absolutely must have, and what they are willing to give up in order to have a relationship. No relationship is perfect - they all come at a price. A question for our readers is “What price are you willing to pay for a soulmate relationship?”

Jo: You know the compatibility tests on those dating sites … are they useful?

Rick: Hmm, well there is a lot of false information out there about how to choose a partner. The online dating sites that offer “compatibility” screening want to hook people up, but do they really have a vested interest in their members finding a soulmate and unsubscribing? You know, it’s fine to identify common interests and values, but it takes work to create a great relationship, and singles can be way more informed instead of expecting a compatibility test to result in a happy relationship.

Jo: A great relationship does take work, and we know that a conscious selection is the best start, so what is key to finding a soulmate?

Rick:  Two things - One is to clearly and realistically identify your deal-breakers or requirements which are not as easy as it sounds. Second is personal growth - you’ve got to upgrade your personal “software” regularly - I’m talking about what you bring to a relationship. What worked in your 20’s is not likely to work in your 30’s or 40’s.

Jo: Where are the best places for singles to meet?

Rick: Well if you consider what I’ve already said about deal-breakers, there are some places that are better than others, and some “ways” that are worth exploring. First of all, every day places such as the grocery store or even speed dating offer little or no selective screening … not an effective venue to find someone highly aligned with your values and requirements. Yes you might meet someone here, but the chances are less than at a venue which has some degree of differential.

Those online dating sites with compatibility tests can help as long as you remember that meeting in person is critical before making ANY judgements about the chances for success.  And then online sites that cater to important core values such as personal growth, religion or spirituality can provide an additional screen that will improve the odds, but it is still important to meet in person, and frequently!

So I prefer places where you do things you enjoy in the company of others with common interests or values. So you can get to know someone over time, check them out and listen to what other people say about them and vice versa.

Jo: So personal growth groups, church groups, sports clubs, charities or volunteer organisations?

Rick: Yep. Basically any organisation you can find that reflects your values. And if you get involved in several of these places, you’ll find some diversity and improve your chances for success.

And I think personal growth venues are probably a really solid option. One of the key deal-breakers for successful relationships is a level of emotional maturity. It’s when people behave like upset children that relationships falter.  While people who attend personal growth programs are more likely to be emotionally mature.

Jo: Anything else Rick?

Rick: Yes! It appears the most likely source for attracting your soulmate is family and friends. Maybe not a blind date, where you’re being “set up”, but the people who know and like you, will have your best interests at heart and many good relationships have begun this way. Telling your close network about your deal-breakers and asking others for assistance and referrals is probably the best way of attracting your soulmate.

Jo:  Are there any places singles should avoid and why?

Rick:  Yes it’s probably the venue where most singles first try- a popular bar or pub.  The main skill for a dating single is to avoid making any decisions quickly. I’ve noticed that alcohol and patient decision making don’t really mix! That said - it is possible to meet a quality person at a bar … and I don’t recommend bars.

Also …It’s worth noting that at every venue there are good prospects and bad, and among the good prospects, there will be people that meet your requirements and those that don’t.

Jo: So just personal growth groups then?

Rick: Actually use all the venues that are available to you and attend them all in order of priority of likelihood that someone who meets your requirements will frequent such a place.

Jo: Now Rick I’ve heard you say that the only reason someone isn’t meeting other singles is because they really don’t want to on some level … Law of Attraction, etc. What do you mean?

Rick: Well Joey, we both agree that the Law of Attraction is: What you focus on you attract. These singles may be saying they “don’t know how to” or they’re “afraid to,” and there is always some Limiting Belief underneath that. By uncovering and confronting their Limiting Beliefs, a person is able to create authentic conscious statements of what they want from the Universe. And then they must take action to demonstrate to the Universe they mean it. No action basically reflects that the intention was not authentic.  So the Universe will keep dishing up what your subconscious is still asking for… which is more evidence to validate your Limiting Beliefs.  Action NOW is necessary.

Fear is a natural part of life and love. Taking action to attract your soulmate takes courage. A soulmate specialist can help uncover Limiting Beliefs, discover your core values and vision for your life and relationship so that you are inspired to take action despite any fear.

Jo: If a new client asked you, “So where do I find other eligible singles to meet?” what would you say?

Rick: First, I’d say, “Let’s see if you’re clear on your deal-breakers! You don’t want just anybody.” And then “let’s upgrade your skills; you want to be a person of interest to those who meet your requirements! How you come across is more important than where you come across.”

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